Your Relationship Re-Treat

At the core of True Love Central is The Love Clinic, offering specialist Christian Connection Counselling and Coaching where issues of the heart can be addressed warmly, compassionately and sensitively, and any inclusion of your Christian faith is welcomed. Offering a unique blend of Spirit, scripture, science and sentiment, TLC is passionate about elevating you so that you can fly

Clients are welcome who are Christian or non-Christian. For those who are not wanting to have faith included in the work you are also invited to visit www.thecoupletherapist.com

Your SAFE haven

Feeling loved, and being free to love, is vital to your personal wellbeing, and that of your home and your community. The Love Clinic is here to help you restore, revive and renew the experience and expression of love in your heart, whether that is love for yourself, for God or in your relationship with others. The heart of TLC is to be a positive and nurturing, safe place for you.

THE TLC you DESERVE

Individuals and couples have addressed a wide range of issues including: relationship breakdown, recovery from affairs, separation, relational boredom and distance, loss of libido, domestic abuse, anger management, conflict resolution, a lack of psychological safety, addiction, depression, anxiety, stress, low emotional resilience, low self-esteem, differences in spiritual expression, a faith crisis and feeling disconnected from God.

Maybe this is the time to treat yourself to a potentially life-changing experience...

COUNSELLING - THERE FOR YOU AT YOUR WORST

The Love Clinic specialises in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Developed by Dr Sue Johnson it is the only model of couple therapy internationally that is based on an empirically validated theory of adult love and emotional distress. With its base in attachment theory, it is also a perfect model to understand and heal your relationship with your family, with yourself, or with God.

"Andrea helped us resolve the sticky issues we had about a pre-nup agreement and wedding. We feel more confident and prepared now to deal with any of these issues that might come up in the future. By getting us to focus on what really matters in our relationship, Andrea was able to help us see that what we thought were disagreements about money were really about our fears, insecurities and need for autonomy. The work we did together in the past month was very productive. She is a skilful and empathic professional."

For a sweet new start

Feeling loved and connected to others as an individual or as a couple is key to your personal happiness. So TLC is here to help you maximise your potential to restore and revive the centrality of ‘true love’ in your life. Coming alongside you in your distress, the heart of TLC is to create a platform for your emotional wellbeing and relational success.

FOR YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL

The therapy can facilitate you to address and overcome unhealthy attachments in your life, whether they be to different parts of yourself, events from the past, destructive behaviours and patterns in relationships. You can be empowered to implement new healthy strategies for your personal freedom, self-expression, intimacy and fulfilment of your Royal divine destiny. Encouraged to invite God into your heart and your circumstances, there is an invitation to encounter with Him as key to your breakthrough. However, clients with no faith are also very welcome.

Discover your life love message

There is gold to be found in the dirt, and therein lies a deep message from God for you. Your lowest moments have redemptive significance as you explore your Brilliant Blueprint for your Best Results In Love and Life.

'Andrea is incredibly well attuned in drawing the focus of our sessions exactly where they need to go. I put this down not only to her extensive training, but also to her deep personal connection with God and ability to be led by him as we talk. She is able to work in a way that leads to insights discovered through conversation and reflection, as well as through prayer and actively listening to God together - whatever seems right at the time. I think it's rare to find a therapist who has the people skills, training, connection with Holy Spirit, and the ability to marry these things together in such an effective way.
She has helped me to make real progress in areas which I once feared were hopeless.
Andrea believes so passionately in what she is doing and invests so much of herself that I can't help but feel valued, safe and hopeful through speaking with her.'

FOR YOU AS A COUPLE

After the initial falling in love phase, that loving feeling can be compromised by negative and destructive relationship dynamics. These can develop gradually over time, to the point where even simple interactions can feel strained, the passion can wane and maybe particular distressing events from the past just do not go away. The more important the relationship, the more potential for emotional landmines and relational roadblocks.

MASTER COUPLE CLINIC – YOUR RELATIONSHIP RETREAT

Whether your relationship is in crisis, whether you feel like you have hit a bump in the road, or whether you want to go from good to great, this Master Couple Clinic is a one or two day relationship retreat just for you. Relax and rejuvenate your romance or jump start your couple therapy.

When and Where

This is your chance to invest for your best. You have the option to experience this relationship retreat virtually on Zoom, in your own home, at the new Homewood Grove development in Lyne, Chertsey, Surrey, or at an idyllic, romantic Surrey country club, where a spa resort and luxury hotel await you.

Foxhills Club & Resort were the 2022 winner of the Conde Nast Johansens Award for Excellence for the hotel offering the best immersive experience. There is some scheduling flexibility so do get in touch to enquire about availability.

Relax and Relate

Using the model of Emotionally Focused Therapy, this EFT intensive offers you the opportunity to spend one or two days focused on giving your relationship the TLC it deserves. The option of Foxhills also adds the extra dimension of a reprieve from your daily life and an invitation to make new memories together.

If you are looking for an online retreat, there is the added flexibility of being able to offer half a day, or double sessions, or 50 minute sessions on consecutive days.

Plan 'A' for your Relationship

The following four areas will be addressed over your retreat:

Assessing your relationship
Accessing your recovery
Accelerating your restoration
Advancing your romance

Your relationship retreat concludes with forming a follow-up plan to protect your progress and embed your success.

A Focus on TLC

The overall pacing of our sessions and the timing of breaks will be tailored to your unique needs and wellbeing, allowing you both the opportunity to relax and, if at Foxhills, to enjoy your country club facilities. Take a moment in a romantic setting to focus on your relationship and reconnect your heads and your hearts.

Retreat Ready?

Your relationship needs to be ready to make the most of this Master Couple Clinic opportunity. So please do get in touch to book a free 20 minute call to explore this and find out more.

Your TLC Investment – Re-Treat Your Relationship

Maybe it’s time for you to get your relationship out of its box and invest in its best.

The options are a 1/2 day, 1 day, 2 day or 3 day EFT Intensive.

The cost of Bed and Breakfast at the Foxhills Country Club, should you wish to treat yourselves, varies according to dates, the standard of your bedroom and the room booked for the therapy. This romantic venue can be researched further at www.foxhills.co.uk.

Alternatively you can opt for a Surrey hotel of your choosing! Make memories that will last a lifetime. You deserve the best.

THE STRATEGY OF EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY

For most successful outcomes couples will experience the complete process of Emotionally Focused Therapy which includes three distinct experiences:

Stage 1 - Getting Unstuck

The first stage of couples counselling lays a foundation for a deeper, lasting connection in your relationship. The aim here is to help you de-escalate your conflict by:

Understanding your unique negative cycle of disconnection as a couple
Recognising the positions of each of you in the cycle and what perpetuates it
Learning to identify what is really going on for each other underneath surface behaviours

Reframe your Relationship

The understanding of the destructive cycle of disconnection and how it plays out uniquely in your relationship empowers you to disable it, and reframe the enemy as the cycle, rather than your partner.

"I thought that Andrea was very good at getting us to the root of the issues that were causing my wife and I some difficulties. Andrea was practical, and came up with strategies for us to be more mindful in our communication, helping us to avoid our negative spirals into conflict. Andrea has done a nice job of facilitating improvements!"

Stage 2 - Experiencing Re-connection

Now that you are experiencing a new calm between you, it starts to feel safer and more possible to reach out and reconnect, or respond, without defensiveness or attacking the other. In this stage you become more:

Accessible
Responsive and
Engaged with each other

As you begin to have more of these A.R.E conversations together, you create new foundations of connected experience. You are able to recognise and own your fears and needs, so redefining how you are, and who you are, as a couple.

Rewrite your love story

During the second stage you can potentially begin to find softer ways to communicate with each other. Your new experiences of feeling heard by your partner, and reaching for each other, enable new bonding moments which create both healing and hope.

"We argue less, and for shorter periods when we do. It is a journey, and we have a lifetime left to travel, but I feel more positive about the future and confident in my relationship than I did six months ago."

Stage 3 - Creating Your Future Together

By now both of you can feel safer, more engaged and increasingly trust each other. Old issues are dealt with, or you are confident that you will be able to resolve them together. In this stage you:

Continue to intentionally connect and open up
Deal with any experiences of disconnection as they happen
Tackle issues as a team
Pro-actively create a culture of connection together

Optimise your romantic potential

Now embedding your new level of connection, the expression of your love becomes your new lifestyle as a couple. This can recover and revive your experience of romance and give you the relational resilience to positively and constructively navigate further challenges in the future.

CLARIFYING - CRYSTALISE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AMBIGUITY

True Love Central also specialises in helping those couples where there is a discrepancy between the partners about the future of the relationship. Recognising that this is a very hard place, a tailored way forward is offered.

ON THE BRINK OF BREAK-UP?

If your relationship feels on the brink, you may be wondering if Couple Therapy is right for you and your partner. If this is the case, you may wish to receive individual counselling, but there is also another option you may like to consider.

Sometimes one partner is ‘leaning out’ of the relationship and is unwilling to try counselling, whilst the other is ‘leaning in’ and wants to work on restoring the relationship. This is very tough emotionally, and couple therapy is not an option where the two partners have a mixed agenda.

However, Discernment Counselling has been designed for just such couples. Its aim is to help each partner crystalise their thinking and clarify their position on the relationship.

It is a very specific short-term counselling approach that offers you a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at the three options for your relationship path going forward.

DISCERNMENT THERAPY

Discernment Therapy will help you decide
• firstly, whether to just stay as you are as a couple with no action,
• secondly, whether to separate or divorce and
• thirdly, whether to move towards couple therapy, for a fixed period. The focus of Discernment Counselling is for you to gain clarity and confidence about your decision to pursue one of these three directions for your relationship.

The process of discerning this decision is based on gaining a deeper understanding of how your relationship ended up in this place, and its possibilities for the future.

The goal is NOT to solve your relationship problems at this stage, but to discern whether you might both become willing to work on solving them in couple therapy at the end of Discernment Counselling.

You will each be treated with compassion and respect, no matter what you are feeling about your relationship at the moment, and regardless of your final choice of path. A Discernment Counsellor does not have an agenda, except to make sure that no stone is left unturned as you each seek to discern your best decision for the future.

You will each be gently challenged to take responsibility for what you have brought to the situation and how you may have contributed to this current impasse, so that you might both learn from your pain.

WHEN YOUR HEARTS ARE NOT ON THE SAME PAGE

• You will come in as a couple, but the most important work occurs in one-on-one conversations with Andrea, as the two of you will be starting from different places. This approach honours the reality that at present your hearts are not on the same page. It seeks to discern the extent to which you both wish that were different, even if right now it feels out of reach.

• It is short term in nature, a maximum of 5 sessions, at the end of which you may transition into time limited couple therapy if that becomes a mutual decision.

YOUR TLC EXPERIENCE

INVESTMENT

You are welcome to book a free initial 15 minute telephone or Zoom call with Andrea Love prior to booking a session.

The sessions fees are as follows:

Individual Therapy £130

Couple Therapy & Discernment Counselling £150

EFT Intensives are priced pro rata on the basis of £950 per day

Please get in touch if you would like to book a free 30 minute exploratory telephone or video conversation. You can call Andrea Love on 07966-59440 to make an initial appointment, or email her at tlc@truelovecentral.net

CLINICS

ONLINE

Online sessions take place on a variety of platforms and offer flexibility in scheduling. A double session can accelerate your process and achieve more traction more quickly, subject to scheduling.

CHERTSEY, SURREY

Face-to-face sessions are offered at the Homewood Grove in Lyne, Chertsey. With a restaurant on site, this beautiful venue offers the perfect private space for an EFT Intensive. This is within easy reach of Ottershaw, Addlestone, Weybridge, Cobham, Walton-on-Thames, Shepperton, Virginia Water, Egham, Chobham, Woking, Byfleet or Pyrford.

A SURREY HOTEL

For your Love Catalyst an EFT Intensive can be booked at a Surrey hotel of your choosing or a church if you have access to their facilities. Alternatively why not book a romantic retreat, and take your relationship from good to great?

DURATION

The length of time that individuals, couples or families need in therapy depends on a number of factors. Progress is accelerated by having regular sessions, usually weekly. Fortnightly sessions are an option, but clients should be aware that it will take longer to get traction in transforming your distress to success. In some situations an EFT Intensive can be beneficial to jump start your relationship journey. This can be having a session on a number of consecutive days, having double sessions, or meeting with varying intensity from half a day through to a three day relationship re-treat.

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